Friday, August 21, 2009

Asking Someone for a Date

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It seems simple enough, but it can be the most difficult part of a date.
So what do you do?

Biggest clue: THINK AHEAD

You don't want to be standing there going, "Um, ah." when the object of your affection says "Yes."

You can't just looked stunned and be too shocked to utter the next sentence.
You can't wait for that very moment to try to think of what on earth you can do on a date.
You need a more impressive beginning.


If you're at the start of a relationship or asking for a first date, take the pressure off by not using the "D" word.
Don't ask for a "Date" and don't call it a "Date."
If you're uncomfortable saying, "Would you like to go out with me."
Then don't say it.
Make it casual.
But (just a reminder)THINK AHEAD.
Make it specific.

First - two deadly questions NOT to ask:
Do not ask, "You want to go out?" it's too open-ended and can lead to awkward follow up conversation.
Do not ask, "What are you doing Friday night?"
It's too vague. It may leave your potential date wondering exactly what you have in mind.
The other person doesn't know if you're just curious about what she/he is doing on Friday night or if you want to do something with them...

Try something along the lines of:

"You like to rollerblade? I was thinking of going out to the lake on Saturday. It's great out there. Would you like to go with me?"
Or if you're really uncertain or uncomfortable about getting together - go with a group.
Ask the question:
"Hey, there're a bunch of us going bowling on Saturday. Would you like to go?"
The operative word here is "us." It immediately takes the pressure off.
Planning activities to do on your date and getting together in a group are good ways to go - especially if you think you or your date might get "tongue-tied."
If you're busy or there are a bunch of other people in the conversation, you won't hit awkward silences and won't have to talk all the time if you don't know your date very well.

In summary, just remember when you are asking someone out:
1) Plan ahead
Know what you are going to say AND what you want to suggest to do on the date.
2) Be specific
The other person will be much more comfortable if they know exactly what your intentions are and what you want to do.

AND try to relax and enjoy yourself - worst case - they'll say they can't go out and you'll find someone else who will. Someone who appreciates you.
In other words, if the person you are asking out doesn't have enough insight to recognize what a terrific person you are, then they're just not too bright now, are they?
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Basic Kissing Tips

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Great Breath - This is very important. Make sure you brush your teeth before going out on your date. There is nothing worse than kissing someone with bad breath.
If your date consists of having something to eat before the actual kiss, make sure you have a mint on hand to take right after you finish eating. Don't take the mint just before the kiss or chew on gum. You don't want to have something in your mouth when you kiss.

Moist Lips - You want your lips to be slightly moist when you kiss. Run your tongue over your lips once before you kiss. Don't wear lip gloss because that tends to make the kiss too gooey.
And don't wear a lot of lipstick unless you want your partner to wear it too after the kiss. Slightly moist lips makes it easier to move your lips over your partner's and gives both you and your partner a more pleasant experience.

Positioning - Stand close to your partner. As the two of you move closer together tilt your head slightly. If you can see which way your partner's head is tilting, tilt your head slightly in the opposite direction.

Close Eyes - Just before your lips meet, close your eyes. Some people prefer to leave their eyes open during the kiss. But until you know what your partner prefers, it is best to close your eyes.

Open Lips - Open your mouth slightly and place your lips over your partner's lips. Do not hold your breath! Breath through your nose. As your lips meet, press them gently over your partner's. You may wish to move your lips in a slow, circular motion or just leave them still over your partners.

Closed Lips - This is like the type of kiss you'd give your grandma or aunt. Instead of opening your mouth when your lips meet, keep them closed. This is also a good way of letting your partner know this is as far as it goes. It also makes a great hello/good-bye kiss or a great first time kiss if you're nervous.
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Kissing Explained

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A first kiss should always be done while the two of you are alone. This will help to avoid any unnecessary nervousness and embarrassing situations.
The best type of kiss is one that uses different variations...
such as starting with a small kiss, working into a French Kiss, maybe sucking on your partner's upper or lower lip...


And don't just leave kisses to the lips.
Kiss their cheeks, their chin or their eyelids.
This can be very seductive and romantic.
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Saturday, August 8, 2009

What makes a woman sexy?

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So what does make a woman sexy? Every woman wants to know! Well, you can stop wondering, because we have the answers for you. Men have confessed of what they mostly believe is sexy in a woman. Here are the most popular comments:

Reason why a guy likes a girl:

Whether you like or not, the truth is, men are first attracted to a woman who is In Shape. They like to able to see a woman’s true figure, as well as toned and healthy. A woman who takes good care of herself gives the impression that she is confident, responsible and stable…which are qualities all men admire. Nice Lips is another thing men consider sexy in a woman. A woman with nice lips makes a man wonder and fantasize about how it tastes and how good of a kisser you are! Find a lipstick that flatters your skin tone and lip line your lips, especially if you do not have full ones naturally. For a sexier touch, roll a little gloss over your lipstick, for a wet and juicy effect.

This will attract even more attention and it highlights your face.

To most men, the sexiest women are those who have Medium/Long soft hair. Medium and long hair really represents womanhood, for women are the ones known to have the long, soft and sweet smelling hair! Find a shampoo and conditioner that have the best smelling scent and ones that provide you with the best moisturizing results. You can also add more health to it by getting a product that adds body, shine and extra moisture to apply on after your shower, before or after you style. If you have short hair, do not worry! Just be sure to keep the volume in it and keep it soft and shiny.

When you go out with your soft hair, be sure to put on that Sparkling smile! Smiling is one of the biggest people magnets you can ever use! Everyone is attracted to cheerfulness and sureness, so be sure of yourself and let the world know it…you will be surprised of just how many people respond to your smiling. Funny is one essential quality you must remember. Men just love it when a woman can laugh at their jokes, make their own tasteful jokes and being able to laugh at themselves. Get in touch with yourself and discover what makes you laugh and what funny memories you have regarding yourself, so that you may bring it up the next time you are on a date, or meet someone interesting. While you are out there laughing at jokes and making some yourself, also remember to have something intellectual to discuss, because Intelligence is considered very attractive. Bring something up you heard on the news, or bring up any subject that you think can get a conversation going, such as school and the experiences you had there.

Being Independent makes a woman sexy to a man. Men like to know that the woman they are interested in can take care of herself, has a good head on her shoulders and knows what she wants. If you do feel insecure about something, try not to advertise it in front of people. Keep your head up high, with a pretty smile, and then work on your insecurity when you get home or seek expert advice. When you and that certain someone enters your intimate stage, always remember that it is important to carry Sexy underwear beneath your clothing! This may sound like something you already know, but women tend to get lazy with it over time. If you want to keep him hooked, entertain with something sexy every time you take your clothes off!

Putting all that sexual and seducing stuff aside, men also long for a woman who is Caring. This may sound funny, but men are looking for a hot, irresistible woman, with a motherly personality. They want a woman who will nourish them and take care of them emotionally, just as we expect them to do for us. So always listen to him when he expresses himself and do your best to show that you care.

Last but not least, believe it or not, it is still important for a woman to be A good cook! There is nothing better for a man than coming home to a fresh, hot and home made dish on the table. They really admire the effort and time a woman puts into preparing a meal and they feel special and rewarded after a long day. If you need ideas for what meals to cook, you can get them at our Romantic Recipes Page! So try discovering your seductive self by keeping these ideas in and putting them to use. You will soon realize you had the seductive goddess in you all this time. After all, every woman has one!

P.S. - Alina Ruigrok is an independent relationship expert for http://www.love-sessions.com helping those in need of dating, love, relationship, marital, sexual and other personal advice through e-sessions.

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First Kissing

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We get so many questions from readers who are anxious about their first kiss. This is understandable since anything that is unknown can be scary. We've all seen people kiss, either in movies, TV shows or in real life. But how exactly is it done? How do you get over the nervousness? These questions and more will be answered on this page about The First Kiss.

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One note, though. In order to experience a truly wonderful first kiss, it must be done with someone you really care about. Someone whom you've been thinking about day and night. Someone who makes your heart beat faster. Otherwise it's just another kiss and that is boring. So do not kiss someone just to say you've been kissed. Kiss someone that really means something to you.

When Is The Best Time For A First Kiss?

The best time is when the two of you are saying good-bye. This is probably the easiest and most comfortable because it's usually the time when a kiss is expected. It is OK to kiss someone on the first date. This shows that you really enjoy being with this person and want to see them again. But it's not absolutely mandatory that you kiss on the first date. If you miss the opportunity during the first date, definitely make an effort by the second, or at the latest the third. If after that you still haven't kissed then the other person may wonder if you really enjoy being with them. Also, make sure that the two of you are alone to have some privacy during this exciting moment, with no distractions or interruptions.

How Will I Know If That Person Wants To Be Kissed?

You can usually tell by how well the date is going. If there was flirting involved and a sense of romance or passion in the date, then by all means go for it. But if things are matter of fact and the other person seems a bit disinterested in the whole thing, then I would wait until the second date. Also, if there is lots of eye contact and closeness between the two of you, this is a good sign that the other person would like to be kissed.

What Type Of Kiss Should We Use The First Time?

I would suggest starting off slowly. You don't want to scare them away the first time with a lot of tongue and saliva. You want the kiss to be gentle yet exciting. You can do this by approaching with a close-mouthed kiss or a tongueless kiss. Let the kiss be gentle and let it linger. Let the other person yearn for more so that they will be in dire need of another kiss from you the next time the two of you are together.

Will The Other Person Know It's My First Time?

Not at all. Because everyone has a different style and way of kissing. Also, some people are more into strong, passionate kisses while others prefer to start off gently. You won't know what style that person has until you've kissed them a few times, and vice versa. Also, once you've kissed someone a few times your kisses start to meld together, meaning that your styles start to intertwine with one another's. That especially happens when one person didn't realize it was enjoyable to kiss a certain way until they tried it with that person. So then they change their style to this new technique.

How Do I Approach The First Kiss?

This can be done in one of two ways. You can either just do it or you can ask/demand a kiss. Asking for a kiss is gentlemanly but not romantic. After the date is over, when the two of you are alone, tell her/him what a good time you had. Then say something like, "Is it OK if I give you a kiss good-bye?" Of course the other person will know what to expect but it's not very romantic.

But you can demand a kiss. You can say something like, "I'd like to kiss you goodnight" or something along that line. More appropriate I believe.

Just doing it is the best and most romantic way of having the first kiss. It shows that you have enough feelings for that person that you just HAVE to kiss them! The best approach for this is the slow and gentle approach. You're standing in front of them as you're saying good-bye. Then take a step or two towards them, hold their hands in yours and lean towards them. Then give them a gentle, lingering, close-mouthed kiss. An even more romantic approach is to cup their face in your hands. This is extremely exciting when the guy does this to the girl.

How Long Should A First Kiss Last?

A first kiss should only last a few moments. Don't worry about the exact time. Once your lips have touched the other person's lips then give it a few seconds and end the kiss. To end the kiss just gently close your mouth and pull away gently.

If you get carried away and find that you've lost track of time and the kiss is still continuing then that is OK. As long as the other person is reciprocating in the kiss the kiss can continue for as long as you wish.

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How to French Kiss - Learn to Give The Perfect French Kiss

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Learning how to French kiss your partner is one of those intimate things that you absolutely must learn if you want to keep things hot and fun. 

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Explore with your tongue. If the other person seems interested, go ahead and start French kissing for real. Remember to keep your tongue in motion and your touches light. First, just slowly slide your tongue into your partner's mouth.

First things first: Before you even begin to think about kissing your partner, make sure that you have enticing, kissable lips. This is the least sexy kissing tip you'll read today, but it's one of the most important. If you have chapped, dry lips, make sure to regularly moisturize them to keep them soft and kissable. (If you have cold sores, avoid kissing because you'll spread the virus!) 

4 Step to learn how to french kiss

Relax - You lips should be relaxed, your body should be relaxed. Otherwise it will be like kissing a dead fish for the other person. There are only two things involved in a French kiss: your lips and your tongue. That's it!

Open Lips - Your lips should be slightly parted, not open wide like you're at the dentist. Open them just far enough, just like you are regularly breathing through your mouth.

Positioning - Do not have your face dead on to his/hers. Otherwise, your noses will touch. You want to move your head to one side just enough so your nose is out of the way of theirs. If you think about it then, with your head tilted one way and his the other way, your mouths will not reach dead on. Your lips will meet at the corner of the other's mouth.
If you look closely at the picture, you will see that their noses will actually touch the cheek of the other person. Their lips have already touched. When you feel the other person's lips, and you stretch your tongue out a bit, your mouths will instinctively open as much as the couple in the picture.

Tongue - Practice on your own if you'd like. Open your mouth enough (while you're by yourself of course!) just sufficient to stick a bit of your tongue out. It will go past your teeth. Don't stick your entire tongue out... just an inch or two. That is how far you should stick your tongue out in a kiss. So your tongue will go into their mouth and theirs will go into yours. When this happens, both of your tongues will touch. Then just circle the tip of your tongue around the tip of theirs. If they do something different (because you have to remember that everyone kisses differently so some may move their tongue around a bit differently) then just do the same as they do. They may flick their tongue over yours and you can do the same. Or they explore the inside of your mouth with their tongue, do the same thing! Or you can just lightly touch their tongue while they are exploring. The best thing is to NOT just leave your tongue doing nothing. You are reading How to French Kiss on Us-Ask Blog! The ultimate tutorial on how to make out or how to french kiss.

Getting started with French kiss


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You've seen it done in the movies and probably even in public — the French kiss, a timeless and passionate gesture of romantic affection where partners kiss while using their tongues. Whether you live in Paris, France or Paris, Texas, you can learn how to kiss like the French does without an embarrassing faux pas! If you want to know how to French kiss, see Step 1 to get started.

Keep your lips soft. A soft, smooth, and slightly-moist mouth are ideal for kissing. Before you move in, you should make sure your lips aren't chapped or dry so your partner isn't distracted or put off by the state of your lips. If you want to soften your lips before you go in for the kiss, you should try these quick fixes:

  • Use chapstick. Swipe some over your lips and press them together. (If you're a girl and you have flavored chapstick, all the better!) The only caveat is that you should apply lip balm or gloss an hour or more before you kiss, so your kissing partner feels your soft lips, not the thick layer of gloss over them.
  • Drink water. Dry lips are a sign of dehydration, so throw back a tall glass of water (or two). You should notice your lips starting to smooth out within 20 to 30 minutes.
  • Lick your lips. If you're really in a pinch and have no time to spare, quickly run your tongue over your lips and press them together. This should moisten them slightly without making them slobbery or slick. You can even lick your lips a bit subtly while making eye contact with your kissing partner.

How to French Kiss 

As for the movement of the head, that is entirely up to you. Some people will move their heads very slightly in a small circular motion or figure eight. Sometimes they won't. Sometimes just one person moves their head, and the other doesn't. It's totally up to you.

While French kissing your partner, you can do some things:

  • Make a slow, circling motion around his tongue with yours.
  • Slowly and gently press against his tongue with yours.
  • Softly use your tongue to lick and tease his lips.
  • Alternate between all three of these techniques to add some variation to your French kissing repertoire.
How to stop kissing
When you want to stop French kissing your partner, the easiest thing to do is just pull away from them and stop, but that can be a little abrupt. You may find it nicer to stop using your tongue and go back to the start by squeezing his upper or lower lip between yours before you pull away.


Don't forget about these two things! One thing you should never forget about when French kissing someone is your hands. Sure, you can just wrap them around your partner and leave them there, but there are tons of other, really great things you can do with them, too.


French Kiss Tutorial 

The easiest thing to do is to run them up and down his body. But don't stop there. You can also run them through his hair. The back of the scalp is one of the most sensitive and erogenous zones on the body, so make sure to use your nails and fingers to scratch it gently. Lastly, a sexy and dominant way to French kiss someone is to put a hand on his cheek and change which side you are kissing them on.

The final thing that you should never forget is that slower is far sexier, hotter and more sensual than faster 'washing machine' French kissing.

You may explore different ways of using your tongue. Try running the tip of your tongue over your partner's lips. Do this slowly and gently, just using the tip of your tongue.
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Kissing Styles

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Suck Kissing

This can be a very seductive type of kiss. Instead of French Kissing with your mouth open, while your partner's lips are parted suck on their top our bottom lip with your own, just for a second or two. Then go back to another type of kiss or try the other lip.

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Nip Kissing

This type of kiss has to be done carefully, but when done correctly can create a wonderful effect on your partner. While suck kissing, gently bite their lip, but be VERY gentle so as not to hurt your partner. This kiss should only be done with someone that you've kissed a few times before, otherwise you may shock your partner.

Surprise Kissing

This type of kiss is done when your partner is lying down on a sofa or the ground, either asleep or just lying with their eyes closed. Quietly approach your partner and place a small, very gentle kiss on their lips. Intensify the kiss until your partner opens their eyes or awakens.

Vacuum Kissing

This is a playful kiss. While in an open-mouthed kiss, suck in deeply so you're sucking the air from your partner.

Cordial Kissing

Take a sip of your favorite drink, either alcohol or something sweet, and then when your lips meet pour the drink in your partner's mouth. Only take a very small sip.

Butterfly Kissing

Put your eye really close to your partner's cheek and flutter your lashes upon their skin. You can also do this on their lips.

Melt Kissing

Pass an ice cube back and forth in mouth while French kissing.

Marathon Kissing

See how long you can kiss for (try 5 - 10 minutes straight)

Glow stick Frenzy

Pass the mini mouth glow stick back and forth (same thing as melt kissing).

Tongue Sucking

When you have the chance to get really deep into your partners mouth, suck on their tongue as far as you can. Don't suck to hard, you don't want to hurt your partner. Otherwise it's very pleasing!

Candy Kiss

Use either a Jolly Rancher or some type of hard candy/mint. Either you or your partner place the candy in your/their mouth and then it is like a game of keep away. Whoever starts tries to keep the candy in their mouth while the other person tries to get it in theirs. But you can only use your tongue and lips. This can be very fun if you have the right partner!!! Enjoy.

Sigh Kiss

When you first start kissing your partner gently lick their lips with the tip of your tongue. Then blow or sigh into their lips, causing a tingling feeling that will intensify your kiss for sure.

The Tickle Kiss

In this kiss you make use of the fact that the roof of the mouth is the most ticklish part of the body. Begin a normal French kiss and (be sure your partner understands the game) stroke your tongue across the roof of each other's mouth. This will create almost unbearable chills down your spine and the winner is the person who can stand them because the loser pulls away. The best part about this kiss is that it is different every time and always fun.

Name Kiss

If u have run out of things to do with your tongue spell your name. This works very well and everyone likes
it!

Tongue Wars

Each person tries to get their tongue in the other persons mouth while they try to get their tongue in your mouth. Each person "blocks" the other persons tongue with theirs. The winner gets to pick the next type of kiss. This game is great for reliving first make-out tension.

Starburst Trick

Out a starburst in your mouth, and while French kissing try to unwrap it! Enjoy!

Pop Kiss

Use pop-rocks, great fun. You've heard of fireworks, this is an explosion!

Ring Kiss

What you do is take a ring off your finger and put it on your tongue. Then while you and your partner are french kissing, he tries to slip it on the tip of his tongue! It is a lot of fun!

Tongue Tease

When you're French kissing, if/when you pull back, and before your mouths meet again, you can flick your tongue up and down quickly against the other person who is doing the same. It's very teasing and fun to see how long it lasts. Its hard to resist going strong after a while of flicking.

Touch Kiss

You do this after you and your partner have Frenched or really kissed alot. What you do is just simply touch tongues - like the tip of your tongue. You may want to move it around but you don't have to. You don't do it inside your mouth you do it out in the open.

Underwater Kiss

Have your partner hold their breath underwater and when he or she taps you give them air.

Moving Kiss

Make sure a bed or couch or chair is behind your partner and when French kissing gently push your partner onto the chair or whatever is behind them. Very good for serious couples or just beginners.

Flavor Kissing

Put a piece of long lasting gum in your mouth (Hubba Bubba, Trident) just before you and your partner French kiss. While kissing pass the gum back and forth, and see how long it takes for the flavor to run out!

Chin Kiss

Hold your partner's chin with your middle, index, and thumb and tilt their head in the right direction. Continue to hold it as you kiss.

Lip Venom

Before you go to kiss your partner, apply lip venom to your lips when he isn't looking. Lip venom is a safe cosmetic item that you can buy at Scarlets and other cosmetic stores and what it does is it draws the blood to your lips, making them red and tingly. A little bit goes a very long way and can still be passed up until probably about a half an hour after applying. When your partner kisses you, he will have this sensual feeling running through his lips for the rest of the day.

Pepper Kiss

Take a hot pepper and roll it on your lips then kiss your partner. It gives the kiss a kick. (Note use peppers as hot as you or your partner can take, but not too hot or it will just burn and ruin the kiss.)

Chew Kiss

Tell your partner to place their tongue deeply into mouth deeply... you VERY GENTLY "chew" on the back part of their tongue... do not suck. This will create a sensation in other places that can be very exciting!

Breath Kiss

In a hot moment - creates major anticipation - barely touch lips with lips slightly parted... then breath your partner's breath... moving heads slowly to experience different sensations... lips touching on and off slightly... it is a very teasing sort of kiss and builds passion tremendously.

Tongue Ring Kiss

What you do is, if your partner has a tongue ring and the two of you are French kissing, mess with his/her tongue ring while kissing and it gives your partner chills and excitement/happiness because a lot of people with tongue rings love that. Or if the two of you have a tongue ring have a tongue ring WAR! What you do is keep his/her tongue away from your tongue ring, while you're messing with their tongue ring. (NOTE: don't Tangle tongue rings together because that will be a disaster!)

Do What You Want Kiss

This is always fun. One of you just lies there, and the other does whatever he or she wants to give pleasure. Then, you switch roles. See who can give the most satisfying kiss, with the other not participating at all.

Trade-Off Kiss

One of you gets a cinnamon candy and the other a mint. One takes the cinnamon and the other the mint. While French kissing switch them from time to time.

Who Lasts Longer Kiss

Sit very close to each other, your lips almost touching, arms where you please. Sit like this, very close, and see who can go the longest without kissing the other. It's great fun because you can lose on purpose and still win!

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When to Kiss

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On first dates, most guys wait until the end of the date for the "goodnight kiss". Many others cowardly avoid it all together, or wait for her to make a move.

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I tell guys all the time, you've got to kiss a woman goodnight! Don't make her do it - she probably won't. Further, it will tell you exactly how the date went, and if she interested in another. The goodnight kiss is very important to you as your dating skills grow.

The goodnight kiss is also very awkward for most almost everyone. However, you really want this to leave a good impression. To do this, you've got to be smooth and confident, while giving her a good kiss at the same time. Click here for an article on how to kiss properly.

When to kiss:

You need to understand that women are waiting for YOU to make this all-important move! If you don't you're going to come off as either not interested, insecure, or just scared. You don't want to appear this way - even if you are!

Here's a little technique that I use that really helps in all of these areas. Don't wait until the end of the date, kiss her "hello" instead! I call this the "opening kiss".

"But wait!", I hear you saying, "Isn't that a little too bold for a woman you hardly know?" Yes - it IS bold, but not TOO bold! It sets the tone of the date, and removes that anxious moment at the end of the date where you both are standing at her door, or sitting in your car, and not really sure what to do next.

If you get this out of the way in the beginning, the kiss at the end of the date seems much more natural, and is even something you'll both look forward to! The key is in how you approach this kiss.

In many countries a kiss on the cheek is a common greeting. This makes the opening kiss seem much more "continental" rather than forced. However, just like the goodnight kiss, you have to time it, and execute it properly. Here's how:

Imagine meeting your date at a bar, or even at her front door. Instead of putting your hand out to her to shake hers, you put both hands out and take one of hers in each of your hands. Then, draw her to you smoothly, and kiss her lightly, but with a slight linger right on the lips!

This is a powerful opening, and is going to leave an impression. It says that you're bold, forward, direct and confident. Since she's not going to be expecting it, she will also not be ready to avoid it! This is the time you're going to "sweep her off her feet."

When you first meet a woman, you should spend some time getting to know her and establishing connection before you get her home phone number. This "bonding time" creates a type of intimacy between you and her and thus gives you "foundation" for the opening kiss. You see, when you see her for the first date, this isn't the first time you're talked to her!

In fact, by this time you've had at least a conversation somewhere when you first met, and you've probably talked to her at least once via phone or email. You are no longer strangers, and are at least casual friends. This is the only basis you need for the opening kiss!

In the opening kiss, timing is everything. If you hesitate before it, or act like you've done something wrong after it, you're going to have lost the benefit, and you'll spend the rest of the date trying to recover.

So, don't over-think this! Just plan it as part of your bag of tricks and use it to create a strong opening to the date.

Let's look at the specifics of how this is done.

Many times today, women prefer to meet for a first date in a bar or restaurant, rather than to have you pick them up at their house. This is an ideal situation because the pressure will be off, (other than the natural anxiety of the first date).

So, either you walk up to her, or she approaches you. In either case, you need be standing, (it's just polite). If you walk up to her, and she's sitting, just lean in and kiss her! If she's already standing, take both her hands into yours and pull her close to you. Then, kiss her.

The same technique is used when you meet her at either your door or hers. When she opens it (or you open it), and she is there in front of you, move in and plant that kiss.

This first kiss should be very short. Not quite like kissing your granny, but not a long, passionate kiss either. Your lips should be warm, relaxed and for God's sake - keep your mouth closed! You don't want to drive your tongue down her throat, or you're likely to never get a repeat performance! So, just lean in, press your lips against hers, linger for a moment, and withdraw. It's that simple.

Then, go on to say your usual "hello's" and make some small talk like nothing ever happened. This is a good time to use your "listening skills" that you learned from "Being a Man in a Woman's World" to see just how off-balance she is!

You can even do this at other times during the date. For example, if you're talking a walk, you can just stop her, spin her around and kiss her. If you've already opened the date with a kiss, you can make this one linger much longer and even become passionate.

If you're afraid of doing this at the beginning of the date, try kissing her on the cheek instead, and even throwing in a hug. Once you do this a few times, your confidence will grow very quickly, and you'll be on to the opening kiss in no time.

Be sure to pay attention to her reactions. Take the lead and set everything up, and then be ready for more at the end of the date.

By Dr. Dennis W. Neder, he is the author of
Being a Man in a Woman's World
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How To Kiss Well

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Kissing is probably the most physically romantic two people can get. There really is no wrong way to kiss. The thing to remember is that everybody kisses differently and different people prefer different ways of kissing. Some people, believe it or not, are appalled at the idea of French Kissing or using your tongue while you kiss. While others can't imagine kissing without using your tongue. The thing is to try kissing that person a few times before deciding how you and your partner prefer kissing and to get used to the way that person kisses.

How To Kiss

A first kiss should always be done while the two of you are alone. This will help to avoid any unnecessary nervousness and embarrassing situations. The best type of kiss is one that uses different variations, such as starting with a small kiss, working into a French Kiss, maybe sucking on your partner's upper or lower lip, then trying the other two types. And don't just leave kisses to the lips. Kiss their cheeks, their chin or their eyelids. This can be very seductive and romantic.

The perfect kiss is one that is done with someone you really care about. There is more caring and sincerity in a kiss with someone special than with someone you hardly know, although a really good kiss can certainly bring two people closer together.

A lot of people have been writing to us on how to overcome the fear of kissing someone. Our answer would be to not kiss that person right away. Wait until an attraction builds between the two of you and a romantic situation evolves. Go out with the person a couple of times before having that first kiss.

Basic Kissing Tips

Great Breath - This is very important. Make sure you brush your teeth before going out on your date. There is nothing worse than kissing someone with bad breath. If your date consists of having something to eat before the actual kiss, make sure you have a mint on hand to take right after you finish eating. Don't take the mint just before the kiss or chew on gum. You don't want to have something in your mouth when you kiss.

Moist Lips - You want your lips to be slightly moist when you kiss. Run your tongue over your lips once before you kiss. Don't wear lip gloss because that tends to make the kiss too gooey. And don't wear a lot of lipstick unless you want your partner to wear it too after the kiss. Slightly moist lips makes it easier to move your lips over your partner's and gives both you and your partner a more pleasant experience.

Positioning - Stand close to your partner. As the two of you move closer together tilt your head slightly to one side. If you don't, don't worry about it. Your partner will still tilt their head slightly so your lips meet on a slight angle or they will kiss you straight on. If you can see which way your partner's head is tilting, tilt your head slightly in the opposite direction.

Close Eyes - Just before your lips meet, close your eyes. Some people prefer to leave their eyes open during the kiss. But until you know what your partner prefers, it is best to close your eyes. Kissing with your eyes open, looking into one another's eyes while you kiss, can be very erotic and some people find it quite enjoyable. You may want to try kissing this way once you're more comfortable kissing your partner.


Open Lips - Open your mouth slightly and place your lips over your partner's lips. Do not hold your breath! Breath through your nose. As your lips meet, press them gently over your partner's. You may wish to move your lips in a slow, circular motion or just leave them still over your partners.

Closed Lips - This is like the type of kiss you'd give your grandma or aunt. Instead of opening your mouth when your lips meet, keep them closed. This is also a good way of letting your partner know this is as far as it goes. It also makes a great hello/good-bye kiss or a great first time kiss if you're nervous.

Hands - There are many ways you can use your hands during a kiss. The most popular way is to put one hand on your partner's waist and the other one against the middle of their back. Other ways to use your hands are to cup your partner's face in your hands (very romantic!), put them around your partner's neck, put them around their waist, hold your partner's upper or lower arms gently, run your finger's through their hair, or just hold their hands in yours.

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The Hand Kiss

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In a social setting, even a casual Happy Hour, kissing the woman’s hand instead of shaking it on that first introduction can earn you OODLES of Romance Points in her book. I do this as a matter of habit, if the lady is at all charming and gives me any hint at all that she won’t freak about it.

Many years ago, talking with a female friend, the topic came up somehow. She stated that she’d been talking with several girlfriends not too long previously, and they had UNANIMOUSLY agreed that kissing the lady’s hand was the single most romantic gesture that a man could make, and it ALWAYS got their attention when a guy did it.

My personal experience: I have NEVER had a negative reaction from a lady on this. NEVER.

You don’t have to do the deep bow you see in the movies. You actually don’t have to bow at all, although a LITTLE bit of one won’t hurt. I find it works even better if you can make eye contact at the moment or instantly after.

And you get a very quick reading on whether she is used to having her hand kissed or not, based on how quickly she reads the cue that this is your intent and how she rides it.

by John Strohm

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Share a Kiss with Her

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Just thought I would share with you one of my favorite approaches. It’s very simple, guaranteed to win... AND NEVER TURNED DOWN!

Go to the store and buy 2 bags of Hershey Kisses... one chocolate and one almond and carry them with you at all times. When you see a woman that you want to approach, take one of each and walk up to her and say, "Sometimes I see a woman that is SO PRETTY, that I have to share a kiss with her."

* hold them out *

"Do you prefer chocolate or almond?"

She will laugh... and her next comment will be, "That’s good... that’s the best "pick-up" line I have ever heard." THEN you hit her with the REAL LINE...

"That’s not a "pick-up" line... it’s a

"I WANT TO MEET YOU LINE!"

You will see a glow in her eyes like never before. YOU WILL be viewed a different.... SHE WILL TELL HER FRIENDS and she will never forget that moment the rest of her life.

Romance starts with the approach. Woman LOVE a situation that is memorable. Women LOVE to talk about the 1st time they met their boyfriend and how he approached her.

Use tricks and set traps, and set up a memorable situation.

Remember... a lady killer needs 2-3 minutes to charm a women.

An Assassin does it instantly.

by The Assassin
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Top sex tips for men

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DR THOMAS STUTTAFORD

1 Men aren’t irresistible and not all women are desperate for sex. Good lovemaking starts long before you reach the bedroom, so before any date, have a bath. Everyone smells: some women like the smell of male sweat, others don’t, but no one likes the smell of stale sweat.

2 Teeth are as important as the groin and armpits. Don’t forget to brush them after your bath. When kissing a girl, or even sitting close to her, she won’t want to smell your bad breath or notice salad between your teeth any more than she’ll want to smell yesterday’s sweat.

3 Avoid a heavy meal before sex. Oysters and asparagus are assumed to be aphrodisiacs, but this is only because of visual or olfactory associations. Champagne is a better bet, but choose a less acidic one, lest exotic Kama Sutra-style acts cause indigestion.

4 Be careful with drink. We all know drinking increases a man’s desire but decreases his ability, but not everyone realises it also affects a woman’s sexual response. More than two or three drinks and some women may be loving but physiologically limited.

5 Any penile discharge or sore, however apparently trivial, means that sex is out. Chlamydia in the male may be almost symptom-free. It may show only as a mild inflammation of the end of the penis, so that the lips are stuck together in the morning.

6 Always use a condom with a new partner, even if she seems as innocent as a nun. Regular partners should still have chlamydia and blood tests.

7 Men fear judgment, whether by colleagues in the office, teammates in the changing room or, above all, by a new girlfriend. Penis size can worry some men. Remember that someone’s penis always looks smaller to the owner than to an onlooker. Women may prefer a medium-size but thick penis but, if a lover is attentive, even if offering a button rather than a baton, it won’t matter.

8 Don’t rush into sex and focus attention immediately on the genitalia. Take it slowly. Learn to massage. This can easily shade into great foreplay, especially if your partner is tired or stressed. Use plenty of lubrication.

9 Make certain that your partner knows how attractive you find her by paying as much attention to kissing her, complimenting her and generally spoiling her. Don’t neglect the breasts and other erogenous zones.

10 Both sexes have off days. Most men occasionally have poor or tardy erections and even fit, athletic, overenthusiastic men, as well as the inexperienced and anxious, may suffer premature ejaculation.

By_ Dr Thomas Stuttaford, the Times doctor, spent many years working in a genitourinary clinic


SUZI GODSON

1 There’s no substitute for excitement. The range of lubricants on the market can add slip and slide, but should never be used as a short cut.

2 There’s more to sex than pushing the right button. Men have discovered that the key to female orgasm is clitoral stimulation, and many now rub the lamp rather than poking around inside it. The upside is that women are climaxing more often but the increase in emphasis on genital manipulation has made for some very mechanical sex. Going straight to the erogenous zones is the equivalent of fast forward. Men who focus on left breast, right breast, genitals, reduce their partner to a set of body parts.

3 Though clitoral orgasm is easy to achieve, most women want to experience penetrative orgasm. Intercourse is the ultimate connection between man and woman and the sensation of fullness that it creates is intensely pleasurable.

4 Women are slow burners. They take longer to become aroused and get as much pleasure, if not more, out of tenderness, kissing and cuddling. Though quickie sex has its place, for women on the whole, the longer sex takes, the better it feels. If arousal is allowed to build gradually, it floods the whole body rather than being confined to the genital area and a delayed orgasm is infinitely more powerful than an orgasm induced by five minutes of digital manipulation.

5 Sexual gymnastics are often distracting. Chopping and changing positions and techniques can make a woman’s sexual excitement plummet.

6 Thrusting for hours without climaxing doesn’t make you a stud muffin. It does make the vagina numb and sore.

7 Don’t assume your partner is comfortable in her own skin. A survey of 3,500 British women, by the bathroom equipment company SHUC, found that one woman in ten feels so embarrassed about her body that she turns the lights out before taking off her clothes. The average woman still spends a lot of time every day beating herself up about her weight and looks. Nakedness increases that vulnerability, so be sensitive to her insecurities and, if you think that your partner looks great, for God’s sake tell her.

8 Be polite. Never nudge your partner’s head towards your nether regions. During fellatio don’t thrust into your partner’s mouth, don’t hold the side of her head – and definitely warn her when you think you are going to come. With regard to orgasm, always operate a ladies-first policy.

9 Put a little X in your sex. Watching steamy movies with your partner will increase the chance that you will have sex.

10 Remember to take your socks off.

Suzi Godson is the author of The Sex Book (Cassell, £16.99) and The Body Bible
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“I Love You” in different languages

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How to say “I Love You” in different languages:

1 Afrikaans - Ek het jou lief
2 Albanian - Te dua
3 Arabic - Ana behibak (to male)
4 Arabic - Ana behibek (to female)
5 Armenian - Yes kez sirumen
6 Bambara - M’bi fe
7 Bangla - Ami tomake bhalobashi
8 Belarusian - Ya tabe kahayu
9 Bisaya - Nahigugma ako kanimo
10 Bulgarian - Obicham te
11 Cambodian - Soro lahn nhee ah
12 Cantonese Chinese - Ngo oiy ney a
13 Catalan - T’estimo
14 Cheyenne - Ne mohotatse
15 Chichewa - Ndimakukonda
16 Corsican - Ti tengu caru (to male)
17 Creol - Mi aime jou
18 Croatian - Volim te
19 Czech - Miluji te
20 Danish - Jeg Elsker Dig
21 Dutch - Ik hou van jou
22 English - I love you
23 Esperanto - Mi amas vin
24 Estonian - Ma armastan sind
25 Ethiopian - Afgreki’
26 Faroese - Eg elski teg
27 Farsi - Doset daram
28 Filipino - Mahal kita
29 Finnish - Mina rakastan sinua
30 French - Je t’aime, Je t’adore
31 Gaelic - Ta gra agam ort
32 Georgian - Mikvarhar
33 German - Ich liebe dich
34 Greek - S’agapo
35 Gujarati - Hu tunney prem karu chu
36 Hiligaynon - Palangga ko ikaw
37 Hawaiian - Aloha wau ia oi
38 Hebrew - Ani ohev otah (to female)
39 Hebrew - Ani ohev et otha (to male)
40 Hiligaynon - Guina higugma ko ikaw
41 Hindi - Hum Tumhe Pyar Karte hae
42 Hmong - Kuv hlub koj
43 Hopi - Nu’ umi unangwa’ta
44 Hungarian - Szeretlek
45 Icelandic - Eg elska tig
46 Ilonggo - Palangga ko ikaw
47 Indonesian - Saya cinta padamu
48 Inuit - Negligevapse
49 Irish - Taim i’ ngra leat
50 Italian - Ti amo
51 Japanese - Aishiteru
52 Kannada - Naa ninna preetisuve
53 Kapampangan - Kaluguran daka
54 Konkani - Tu magel moga cho
55 Korean - Sarang Heyo
56 Latin - Te amo
57 Latvian - Es tevi miilu
58 Lebanese - Bahibak
59 Lithuanian - Tave myliu
60 Malay - Saya cintakan mu / Aku cinta padamu
61 Malayalam - Njan Ninne Premikunnu
62 Mandarin Chinese - Wo ai ni
63 Marathi- Me tula prem karto (to female)
64 Mohawk - Kanbhik
65 Moroccan - Ana moajaba bik
66 Nahuatl - Ni mits neki
67 Navaho - Ayor anosh’ni
68 Norwegian - Jeg Elsker Deg
69 Pandacan - Syota na kita!!
70 Pangasinan - Inaru Taka
71 Papiamento - Mi ta stimabo
72 Persian - Doo-set daaram
73 Pig Latin - Iay ovlay ouyay
74 Polish - Kocham Cie
75 Portuguese - Eu te amo
76 Romanian - Te ubesk
77 Russian - Ya tebya liubliu
78 Scot Gaelic - Tha gradh agam ort
79 Serbian - Volim te
80 Setswana - Ke a go rata
81 Sindhi - Maa tokhe pyar kendo ahyan
82 Sioux - Techihhila
83 Slovak - Lu`bim ta
84 Slovenian - Ljubim te
85 Spanish - Te quiero / Te amo
86 Swahili - Ninapenda wewe
87 Swedish - Jag alskar dig
88 Swiss-German - Ich lieb Di
89 Tagalog - Mahal kita
90 Taiwanese - Wa ga ei li
91 Tahitian - Ua Here Vau Ia Oe
92 Tamil - Naan unnai kathalikiraen
93 Telugu - Nenu ninnu premistunnanu
94 Thai - Chan rak khun (to male)
95 Thai - Phom rak khun (to female)
96 Turkish - Seni Seviyorum
97 Ukrainian - Ya tebe kahayu
98 Urdu - mai aap say pyaar karta hoo
99 Vietnamese - Anh ye^u em (to female)
100 Vietnamese - Em ye^u anh (to male)
101 Welsh - ‘Rwy’n dy garu
102 Yiddish - Ikh hob dikh
103 Yoruba - Mo ni fe

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What is Love?

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Love

Definition: Love is the unconditional acceptance of all beings, all living things, and even the inanimate. True love, as in the love of God for each creation, requires no specific behavior or ability to justify nor sustain the love.

Example: Generously listening to everyone around him, Jeremey began to feel a deep and unconditional love for everyone and everything. This brought him peace and serenity that had previously escaped him.

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60 Ways to Say "I Love You"

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A little relationship advice can go a long way, and so can a list of relationship tips. Specific, practical ways of showing your love for your partner, kids, and friends can increase the communication, connection, and caring in your family. Knowing how to say I love you consistently and sincerely will give you and your lover a natural high!

64 Ways to Say "I Love You":


  • Don't compare them to anyone.
  • Be courteous at all times.
  • Embrace the present moments without fear or guilt.
  • Live by the Golden Rule (Do unto others as you would have them do unto you).
  • Give your full attention when talking.
  • Become their biggest fan and cheerleader!
  • Toast each other over breakfast or dinner to say I love you.
  • Tell them how they bring love to your life.
  • Laugh about kids quotes on love or events.
  • Talk about your day during mealtimes.
  • Read books aloud together.
  • Say you're sorry.
  • Recall good and bad memories.
  • Don't compare them to anyone.
  • Be courteous at all times.
  • Embrace the present moments without fear or guilt.
  • Live by the Golden Rule (Do unto others as you would have them do unto you).
  • Give your full attention when talking.
  • Become their biggest fan and cheerleader!
  • Toast each other over breakfast or dinner to say I love you.
  • Tell them how they bring love to your life.
  • Laugh about kids quotes on love or events.
  • Talk about your day during mealtimes.
  • Read books aloud together.
  • Say you're sorry.
  • Recall good and bad memories.
  • Don't compare them to anyone.
  • Be courteous at all times.
  • Embrace the present moments without fear or guilt.
  • Live by the Golden Rule (Do unto others as you would have them do unto you).
  • Give your full attention when talking.
  • Become their biggest fan and cheerleader!
  • Toast each other over breakfast or dinner to say I love you.
  • Tell them how they bring love to your life.
  • Laugh about kids quotes on love or events.
  • Talk about your day during mealtimes.
  • Read books aloud together.
  • Say you're sorry.
  • Recall good and bad memories.
  • Don't compare them to anyone.
  • Be courteous at all times.
  • Embrace the present moments without fear or guilt.
  • Live by the Golden Rule (Do unto others as you would have them do unto you).
  • Give your full attention when talking.
  • Become their biggest fan and cheerleader!
  • Toast each other over breakfast or dinner to say I love you.
  • Tell them how they bring love to your life.
  • Laugh about kids quotes on love or events.
  • Talk about your day during mealtimes.
  • Read books aloud together.
  • Say you're sorry.
  • Recall good and bad memories.
  • Don't compare them to anyone.
  • Be courteous at all times.
  • Embrace the present moments without fear or guilt.
  • Live by the Golden Rule (Do unto others as you would have them do unto you).
  • Give your full attention when talking.
  • Become their biggest fan and cheerleader!
  • Toast each other over breakfast or dinner to say I love you.
  • Tell them how they bring love to your life.
  • Laugh about kids quotes on love or events.
  • Talk about your day during mealtimes.
  • Read books aloud together.
  • Say you're sorry.
  • Recall good and bad memories.
  • Don't compare them to anyone.
  • Be courteous at all times.
  • Embrace the present moments without fear or guilt.
  • Live by the Golden Rule (Do unto others as you would have them do unto you).
  • Give your full attention when talking.
  • Become their biggest fan and cheerleader!
  • Toast each other over breakfast or dinner to say I love you.
  • Tell them how they bring love to your life.
  • Laugh about kids quotes on love or events.
  • Talk about your day during mealtimes.
  • Read books aloud together.
  • Say you're sorry.
  • Recall good and bad memories.

  • # Don't compare them to anyone.
    # Be courteous at all times.
    # Embrace the present moments without fear or guilt.
    # Live by the Golden Rule (Do unto others as you would have them do unto you).
    # Give your full attention when talking.
    # Become their biggest fan and cheerleader!
    # Toast each other over breakfast or dinner to say I love you.
    # Tell them how they bring love to your life.
    # Laugh about kids quotes on love or events.
    # Talk about your day during mealtimes.
    # Read books aloud together.
    # Say you're sorry.
    # Recall good and bad memories.
    # Do nothing together.
    # Encourage health in all its forms.
    # Trust your partner enough to cry together.
    # Act silly together.
    # Be lavish in praise.
    # Ask questions about opinions, feelings, thoughts.
    # To say I love you, forget about labels.
    # Encourage adventures and risks!
    # Show your joy when they come home.
    # Bake cookies.
    # Leave stress at work to say I love you.
    # Use flannel sheets in the winter.
    # Solve problems together - such as crosswords or Suduku.
    # Show your gratitude for them.
    # Be a good sounding board.
    # To say I love you, take pride in them -- and show it.
    # Compliment them in front of others.
    # Spend time with them.
    # Listen.
    # Ask for hugs and kisses.
    # Take vacations together.
    # Tell the truth to say I love you.
    # Use pet names to say I love you.
    # Practice self-acceptance.
    # Hunt for treasure together.
    # Be interested in their interests.
    # To say I love you, let go of jealousy.
    # Accept their weaknesses and flaws.
    # Ditch work or responsibilities to play with them.
    # Be yourself.
    # Share chocolates, ice cream sundaes, milkshakes.
    # To say I love you, ignore slights.
    # Pray or meditate together.
    # Practice forgiveness.
    # Watch classic movies together.
    # Leave notes or send letters.
    # To say I love you, buy a "for no reason at all" gift.
    # Don't gossip or judge.
    # Give the benefit of the doubt to say I love you.
    # Give space when they're in a bad or sad mood.
    # Learn something new together.
    # Go dancing.
    # Keep your promises to say I love you.
    # Make them laugh.
    # Consider their feelings.
    # Learn ways to rekindle the romance.
    # Hide a treat in their lunch.
    # To say I love you, make home a fun place to be.
    # Let them make their own decisions.
    # Say what you mean when you say I love you. Say why.

    Saying I love you takes work and making your relationship stronger does take work. It's hard to be honest, and it's hard to accept the consequences of your honesty and authenticity. It takes time, energy, and commitment to stay connected through all the problems that life and people bring. It can be painful, aggravating, and scary to stick it out through all the ups and downs....but the alternative is worse.
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    Friday, August 7, 2009

    Let's Talk About Sex!

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    10 Tips For Talking To Your Parents About Sex

    1. Know your stuff - let them see you are ready by showing them you have done your homework and are going to act responsibly.
    2. Know your reasons - know why you feel you are ready to have sex and what your reasons are; they will ask, and if you can't answer maybe you aren't as ready as you thought!
    3. Be prepared for a negative reaction - it is very hard to see your child ready to be intimate with someone, accept your parents displeasure or anger since it is valid, and be prepared to live with it.
    4. Don't flaunt it in their faces - your descison to have sex shouldn't be a weapon designed to hurt your parents or "put them in their place" while you assert independence, if you are trying to upset them you are having sex for the wrong reasons!
    5. Be calm and polite - this won't be easy for them, even if they are the most liberal parents in the world, if you come out "gangbusters" it will make them react rather than listen.
    6. Talk about birth control and safer sex - I can't explain the horror I felt when my mother asked me about this; spare yourself the shock and bring it up first, it will show that you are thinking about what you are doing which is always a good thing.
    7. Don't sugar coat it - if you want to talk about birth control options, do it; if you want to have sex but aren't sure you are in love, speak up; if you think it is none of their business and are telling them as a courtesy, make it known. This is not a time to hide how you feel.
    8. Be truthful - it is really easy to chicken out and tell your parents what you think they can handle rather than what is true - this is a short term fix and is bound to cause blow ups in the future.
    9. Tell them what a great job they have done - let them know that you value their opinions and are aware of their feelings on the matter (and I hope you are). Tell them that the reason you can come to them about this rather than hiding it is because they have done a good job at earning your trust. Even if your choice goes against values you know they have, make sure you tell them you respect their feelings.
    10. LISTEN - listen to your parents, they do have experience in this matter (you're here aren't you?) and are an invaluable resource, even if you may not like what they say. More importantly, listen to yourself as you talk to them - if anything you hear yourself say sounds wrong when spoken out loud you may want to take a second look at your decision.
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